COUNSELING & COACHING

Maybe you feel a bit stuck and need a little help in moving forward to something more, or you may find yourself in a very difficult place in your life or in your relationship, or maybe you are engaged and realize the importance of being prepared for marriage. Whatever your situation, we would be honored to walk beside you in this season of your journey. We offer in-person as well as virtual sessions, depending on what best meets your need.
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Individual Counseling

PREMARITAL COUNSELING OR COACHING SESSIONS

Congrats, you're getting married!   How is the list coming?
  1. Finding the one:  DONE!
  2. Planning for the big day:  IN PROGRESS....
  3. Preparing for your life together:  Glad you have stopped by, we are happy to help with that!

Preparing for marriage is an intimate and personal experience, so we do not take a cookie cutter approach. We will explore your strengths as a couple, as well as areas you want to grow in together. We will also explore your relationship through the things that have shaped you as individuals long before you met one another with the goal of  a deeper insight into yourself and each other.

We will look at the core topics of marriage through the lenses of who you are as individuals and how your similarities and differences shape who you are as a couple. Some of the topics we will explore together include:

*Communication  * Conflict  * Personality   *Friends and Family  * Finances  *Roles   *Boundaries  *Having Fun * Sexual Intimacy  *Spiritual Intimacy. 

This is a wise investment in your future. Premarital counseling makes an amazing gift. Put it on your registry right above the quesadilla maker ; )

WHAT TO EXPECT

You will enjoy it because it is fun to learn about yourself and each other. 

You will be encouraged because you both bring strengths as individuals and have strengths as a couple.

You may feel challenged. Why? Because growth is challenging.  But growth is always good. The goal isn't perfection. You don't have to be perfect to be married. If that were true we would be extinct : ) 

We typically meet weekly for 45-50 minute sessions. The number of sessions vary depending on the needs of each couple, but usually last anywhere from eight to twelve weeks. We offer in person as well as virtual sessions, depending on what best meets your need.   

COUPLES COUNSELING OR COACHING SESSIONS

If you are reading this right now, you are thinking about marriage counseling. May we encourage you by saying that you are not alone? In fact, most couples experience a season in their lives where they realize things could be better in their marriage.

You may be in a crisis. Or you may feel stuck in an area of your marriage that you haven't been able to figure out on your own. Or you may have noticed distance created from a slow drift has taken place over time  and now is the time to figure it out.  Whatever the reason you are here, your marriage has an ally.  

We want you to see counseling as a place for growth.

  • A place for developing clarity, and insight. 

  • A place to think.

  • A place to look at your marriage from different angles and perspectives.

  • A place with a fresh set of eyes and ears to help you make sense out of what you are going through. 

  • A place to struggle, not just for the sake of struggling, but for the sake of growth. 

Marriage counseling  is a tool for growth. 

WHAT TO EXPECT

Often couples are hesitant to seek counseling because they fear they will be seen as the "one to blame." Blame does not allow us to resolve anything. Our approach is not to take sides, but to reach understanding. We will always take the side of your marriage.

We believe that is important for both the husband and wife to be able to share their perspective, and that it is equally important for them to understand each other's perspective. Therefore, we do marriage counseling with the couple, and not individually.

We typically meet with couples weekly for 45-50 minute sessions. The number of sessions will vary, depending on each couple's situation.

FAMILY COUNSELING OR COACHING SESSIONS

Being a family doesn't come with a manual. As a family we build something together — we create our own culture.  No matter how much  thought we've put into building our family, there come moments when our rules, norms, and relationships change, stretch, and maybe even stop working.

In those times, we can tend to blame ourselves and each other. Often our breakdowns as a family come when we don't understand the way that our family is growing, stretching, and changing. We've built something, and it's hard to watch it shift. We can feel stuck. 

Family counseling gets everyone in the room together and takes the time to look with intention, not at who's to blame, but at what our family is doing — how we're growing and adapting (sometimes very poorly) — and helps us become empowered to get unstuck.

We can learn to support each other as we change, and to adapt and grow as a family with purpose instead of the haphazard sort of responses that are born out of fear and confusion. 

WHAT TO EXPECT

Family therapy is not a group intervention for one family member who is "the problem." It is taking collective responsibility for the ways that we are responding to each other.  It is our family agreeing to make change together. (Not all kids will be on board with this from the get go and that's ok!) 

We can work together on who in the family needs to be present. Sometimes it's everyone; sometimes its only two or three family members. It can change from session to session and season to season. We'll work that out together.

We meet with families weekly for 45-50 minute sessions. The number of sessions will vary depending on each family's needs and their situation.

INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING OR COACHING SESSIONS

Most of us experience seasons in life where we feel stuck.  Wounds, anxiety, depression, trauma, or life changing events can intrude upon our life, and sometimes we find that our normal ways of coping and our support systems are not quite enough. 

In those times we often need someone to offer us a gentle and caring hand.  To walk with us, to help us process our life without judgement. To offer us fresh insight, clarity of truth, and new skills, tools and ways of thinking that free us to move toward more life.

In individual therapy, we take this journey together — exploring the tangled web of relationships and the inner workings that make us who we are, while providing practical tools and ways of coping that empower a life lived fully.

WHAT TO EXPECT

We will meet you where you are  without judgement and help you gain understanding and insight as you process. You can also expect to develop skills and tools to accompany your insight.

You will partner with your counselor or coach, deciding together the goals and the process to get there as you move forward. 

We typically meet with individuals weekly for 45-50 minute sessions. The number of sessions will vary depending on each person's needs and their situation.